I’m Getting Married!

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Today when I was cleaning my house I found the books my fiance bought for me on the day he asked me to marry him. In the two weeks since he asked I’ve been very busy. We got ready for deployment, worked to set a date, looked up venues, met with our pastor, said goodbye. And then I made appointments to see those venues, contacted our church, started conversations with our families on what the wedding would look like. All the while missing him and realizing what it looks like to plan a wedding without him by my side.

I’ve been stressed, to say the least. But I think today things got a little easier. I looked at my ring and felt the butterflies again that I felt on the day he asked.

I look at those books and I remember one of the best days of my life. He took me to the greatest bookstore ever, Chamblins Bookmine, and we walked around. He played this game with me where he’d find a book title that had something to do with relationships and show it to me. There were tons. Some on military relationships, others on divorce. Some on keeping your man happy. I would giggle and make a joke, but I thought nothing of it. Until he found one titled “An Ideal Husband,” and I looked at him and said he wasn’t one. He asked if I would like for him to be, and the rest is history.

I think it was important for me to write this down, to spend a few moments remembering the start of our greatest adventure yet. After I said yes I hadn’t known what to do with myself. We kept shopping and found books that I wanted to buy. And then he bought them for me. I look at my books and I’m reminded of the man who not only gave me a ring on that special November day, but also knew me well enough to let me do my thing. “Let” isn’t even the right word. He encourages me in everything I do.

Yes, I am sad that I’m doing a lot of big planning without him. Yes, I miss him so much that I’m on the verge of tears a lot. Yes, I am so very proud of him.

So I write this tonight out of excitement and gratitude. Both for the future and how far we’ve come.

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WWW Wednesday – 11/1/17


Happy November, friends! And Happy NaNoWriMo to whoever is participating this year. I won’t, but I will be finishing up my first project I tried out during this month. I got to turn it into my grad school thesis.

I haven’t done a WWW Wednesday in a while. But I’ve done so much reading for school that I think it’s time I share.

What are you currently reading?

Practical Magic by Alice Hoffman – oh my gosh. This book is perfect. I love the movie so much and the book just expands on what I already enjoy. Plus, you can’t go wrong with magic.

What did you just finish reading?

Little Fires Everywhere by Celeste Ng – I don’t read much literary fiction. But books like Little Fires make me question why. It’s so thought provoking and timely, not to mention well written. I’m definitely keeping an eye out for her first novel.

Without Merit by Colleen Hoover – this is one of those books that everyone should read. But I can’t tell you why until you’ve finished. I’m so glad I read it.

Broken Bay by Andrea Dunlop – this was a cute novella that was perfect for October. Not as long or fleshed out as I would have liked, but worth getting into.

Losing the Light by Andrea Dunlop – Dunlop’s actual novel, though – amazing. Full of heart and sex and life.

What do you think you’ll read next?

I finally started getting Book of the Month boxes! So I have Turtles All the Way Down by John Green and Beasts of Extraordinary Circumstance by Ruth Emile Lang to read. And since I get a new box soon, I’ll probably add The Rules of Magic by Alice Hoffman. Because the publishing of Practical Magic’s prequel is the very reason I started to read the first.

So what have you all been reading lately? I’d love to hear.

Lastly, a public service announcement: today is November 1st and officially Scorpio Races day. If you haven’t yet read Maggie Stiefvater’s book about wild and deadly horses and the people who love them (and each other) today is the perfect day to start.

Happy reading.

Hurricane Irma Prep

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Hey guys! How fitting, that the second day I’m supposed to write a blog post about self care, I end up spending my evening taking care of all the things I need to do before Hurricane Irma hits Florida.

Crazy.

So I don’t have much to talk about today. But I didn’t want to let the day go by without posting for day two. For now I’m battening down the hatches and praying that the worst of this storm is over.

Positive vibes and/or prayers would be appreciated!

21 Days of Blogging

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I’m back!

Hello everyone. Been a long time, hasn’t it? Life has been crazy lately and it’s left very little time for blogging. To be honest, I’ve left myself very little time for lots of things that are good for me. When life gets busy with things that I have to do, I end up neglecting the things that I want to do. This is not the way I want to continue my life. It’s so important to do the things that set your soul on fire, as well as the things that keep you healthy and thriving.

So over the next 21 days I am committing to doing two things.

  1. Write everyday. I want to post on the blog once a day for 21 days just to show myself I can create this habit.
  2. Exercise. I’ve found that exercising helps my anxiety tremendously. I don’t know if it’s endorphins, the adrenaline, or pride in finally taking care of myself, but it works.

This is a start. I’ve heard it takes 21 days to create a habit, so if I can get myself to write and exercise daily, I’m hoping that I’ll start to feel a difference in daily life. I’ll obviously keep you posted on how it’s going, but in the meantime wish me luck. Making habits is hard. But I know I can do this.

See you tomorrow.

Books to Read When Your SO is Deployed

…or at bootcamp, or living in another place, or super busy with military life.

These are the books that I read during long stretches of absence, when I need to find comfort in something small. Some of them are fiction, some are not. Some are self help, some are not. I figure it’s good to read a little bit of everything. Because military SO’s need all the help we can get.

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1. How to be Married by Jo Piazza
You don’t have to be married to get the fruits of Piazza’s bare-it-all narrative, but it doesn’t hurt. She goes into the nitty gritty of what it means to choose one person, and then she explores what that means to different cultures. Ultimately, How to be Married shows that there’s no One Way to be together, just do do your best. I’m currently reading this one.

2. The Art of Asking by Amanda Palmer
Communication is Hard when your SO isn’t there to talk to face to face. Palmer is an expert at asking for what she wants, and she’s very keen to teach you how in this touching memoir about the music business and art for arts sake. “I trust you this much. Should I? Show me.”

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3. Rising Strong by Brene Brown
Brene Brown has her PhD in vulnerability. Okay, not literally. But she should. This book is super important because it shows us how to rumble with the stories we make up for ourselves, especially the ones based on fear and distance. It’ll teach you how to communicate the stories to your significant other.

4. Unbroken by Laura Hillenbrand
Historical, unbelievable, and a true hero’s journey. Sometimes, it’s nice to read about those who came before our SO’s and survived. Admittedly, this one is a bit harrowing, so maybe try it when you know your SO is home and safe if you’re concerned for their safety.

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5. Passenger by Alexandra Bracken
This one I think is particularly great for Navy SO’s. It’s got time travel, sailing, action, romance. Mostly, it’s a great escape from missing someone. But as someone who loves a sailor, that aspect was really fun for me.

6. Fangirl by Rainbow Rowell
Do you remember how you fell in love with your SO? All the butterflies in your stomach, the wondering if they felt the same. Those first kisses… This book is sure to remind you of that. Rainbow Rowell is queen of romance in my eyes, and she’s really great at conjuring that “falling in love” feeling.