Books to Read When Your SO is Deployed

…or at bootcamp, or living in another place, or super busy with military life.

These are the books that I read during long stretches of absence, when I need to find comfort in something small. Some of them are fiction, some are not. Some are self help, some are not. I figure it’s good to read a little bit of everything. Because military SO’s need all the help we can get.


1. How to be Married by Jo Piazza
You don’t have to be married to get the fruits of Piazza’s bare-it-all narrative, but it doesn’t hurt. She goes into the nitty gritty of what it means to choose one person, and then she explores what that means to different cultures. Ultimately, How to be Married shows that there’s no One Way to be together, just do do your best. I’m currently reading this one.

2. The Art of Asking by Amanda Palmer
Communication is Hard when your SO isn’t there to talk to face to face. Palmer is an expert at asking for what she wants, and she’s very keen to teach you how in this touching memoir about the music business and art for arts sake. “I trust you this much. Should I? Show me.”


3. Rising Strong by Brene Brown
Brene Brown has her PhD in vulnerability. Okay, not literally. But she should. This book is super important because it shows us how to rumble with the stories we make up for ourselves, especially the ones based on fear and distance. It’ll teach you how to communicate the stories to your significant other.

4. Unbroken by Laura Hillenbrand
Historical, unbelievable, and a true hero’s journey. Sometimes, it’s nice to read about those who came before our SO’s and survived. Admittedly, this one is a bit harrowing, so maybe try it when you know your SO is home and safe if you’re concerned for their safety.


5. Passenger by Alexandra Bracken
This one I think is particularly great for Navy SO’s. It’s got time travel, sailing, action, romance. Mostly, it’s a great escape from missing someone. But as someone who loves a sailor, that aspect was really fun for me.

6. Fangirl by Rainbow Rowell
Do you remember how you fell in love with your SO? All the butterflies in your stomach, the wondering if they felt the same. Those first kisses… This book is sure to remind you of that. Rainbow Rowell is queen of romance in my eyes, and she’s really great at conjuring that “falling in love” feeling.




A while back I found a tumblr post with a whole bunch of fangirlish questions that I really wanted to answer. So without further ado, I present to you all of the gory details of my idea of a fangirl.

  1. Who was your first fictional crush?
    1. Do you remember Char from Ella Enchanted? Because I do.
  2. When/how did you discover fanfiction?
    1. After reading All American Girl/Ready or Not, I found Meg Cabot’s fan forum and started reading fanfic about Sam and David because I seriously love them.
  3. What is the weirdest fanfic you’ve ever read?
    1. I tried to read My Immortal once, for giggles.
  4. What was the first ‘fandom’ you joined?
    1. Meg Cabot ❤
  5. Have you ever named anything after a book/tv show? Or plan to?
    1. I picked Leila as a girl’s name for when I have kids after reading When It Happens by Susane Colasanti
  6. Give us a brief history of your otps, spanning from childhood up till now.
    1. Oh gosh. Um. Char/Ella (Ella Enchanted), Sam/David (All American Girl), Sara/Toby (When It Happens), Edward/Bella, Harry/Hermione (Harry Potter), Sam/Grace(Wolves of Mercy Falls), Blue/Gansey (The Raven Cycle)
  7. Do you own any fan merchandise for something? If so, what? If not, what would you like to have?
    1. I have a few Twilight t-shirts, and Bella’s bracelet from Eclipse, lots of posters too
  8. If you had the opportunity to be part of your favourite books, would you want to be? Or would you rather stay an observer?
    1. I would love to be a with in Harry Potter!
  9. When did you join WordPress?
    1. June of 2015
  10. If you had to pick one fictional boyfriend, who would it be and why?
    1. Oh please can I have a not dead Gansey from The Raven Cycle?